A coachee of mine has a very high “need to know”. She starts joining the dots by herself, especially where data is scarce. She can seek clarifications from the people involved. Instead, she speaks to her close confidante who has this uncanny knack of joining the dots exactly the same way. The combined agreement proves dangerous. Just because the two of them are reaching the same conclusion doesn’t make it true. She ends up imagining situations that have never happened and picks fights based on the same.
As humans, we often live by joining the dots. Piecing together scanty bits of information to create scenarios. We picture something to be true even if we have little or no evidence for it. We are, in many ways, our assumptions.
“Until we can understand the assumption in which we are drenched we cannot know ourselves.” – Adrienne Rich
There is this old proverb “When in doubt, find out.”
Seek out facts. Not support for your assumptions.