Leadership Coach, Musician, Educator
Are you losing yourself trying to please others?
Stay true to who you are.
““You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Teese
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Once upon a time, a chicken farmer found an eagle’s egg. He placed it with his chickens. The egg hatched. The young eagle grew up with the chickens and did what the chickens did. The chickens could fly for a short distance. So the eagle learnt to fly a short distance too. He thought that was all he could do. So that was all he was able to do.
One day the eagle saw a bird flying in the sky gliding majestically with its wings. “Who is that?” he asked. The chickens replied “That’s the eagle, the king of the birds. Eagles belong to the sky. Chickens belong to the earth”.
The eagle believed he was a chicken and continued to live like one.
Did you grow up with chickens? Are you surrounded by chickens? Are you truly a chicken? Do you have a limited understanding of your potential?
Wake up! Be what you are meant to be. Don’t live like a chicken if you are an eagle.
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At work, we may be doing things that we “must” or “have to”. The key to happiness is doing more of what we “want to”.
In what proportion are these present in your work life today? How can you do more of what you “want to”?
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Weekend is here! Time for reflection. Time to shift your attention from so many things that drive you through the week to who you are. And what you want to do.
“It is like the letters and the paper on which they are printed.You are so engrossed in the letters that you forget about thepaper, but the Enlightened sees the paper as the substratumwhether the letters appear on it or not.” – Ramana Maharshi
Are you seeing the paper? Connecting to it? Writing your letters?
“Humans are more capable than other animals” said my son yesterday after reading one of his books.
“I am bored. I am not happy with what I am doing” said a coachee in a coaching call a few minutes later.
I couldn’t help but notice the irony of it! Though we are more capable, we seem to be much more discontent.
What I have learnt over the years is that boredom or discontent is great sign. Something within is telling us that things are not fine. That we are not aligned with who we are. That what we are doing is not aligned to what we want to do.
These are great moments to introspect. To use our capabilities to change things and bring ourselves joy.
Do you feel bored during the day? What do you do then?
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When I got good clarity over my life purpose, the risk of losing my well paying job in a senior management role and fear of failure in any thing new I try prevented me from going all out to pursue it. Till I read this quote by Wayne Gretzky:
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”
Can you take your first shot today?
Gender is a social construct. When we attempt to assign strengths and weakness to either gender we literally cut out our potential as human race to half.
This Independence Day, free yourself from gender based constructs and explore “Gender neutral parenting”.
Learn to be that parent who contributes to allow the human potential to bloom.
Register for our free online session on 16th Aug at 4PM IST at http://bit.ly/ParentingWithDepth
More details in the video below.
At Business Clinique, we organize a free webinar every month. This month’s webinar is on “Win with Clarity” by Dr. T.T. Srinath. You can register for the same at https://www.businessclinique.in/webinars-5 .
So what’s this webinar about?
Each of us have had many successes in our life. Have we examined what strengths helped us succeed? Doing this may give insights into “how” we succeeded besides the “what” or “why”.
“Win with Clarity” helps you become aware of these building blocks for you to continue to succeed going forward. You can then practice repeating this “how” with awareness and mindfulness.
Dr. Srinath is a well known personal growth trainer, coach and author. He has worked with more than 120 CXOs and senior management professionals. He has helped them gain clarity over the choices they have and use it to fulfill their ambitions.
The “Win with Clarity” sessions that Dr. Srinath does are completely experiential. They help you:
Want to win with clariity? It takes just 2 sessions of 2 hours each. Reach us at contact@businessclinique.in .
Most of us spend our lives as if we had another one in the bank – Ben Irwin
True prosperity is to feel prosperity
Create without attachment to the creation.
“The path doesn’t save all its pleasure for the end. You can enjoy it now.” – Thanissaro Bhikku
If you try to find joy only in the result, you get robbed of the countless moments of joy that are possible along the way. You may think of the time spent on the path as something that has to be endured or suffered to reach that outcome.
The joy is in the effort.
“It is the effort which gives joy; a human being who does not know how to make an effort will never find joy. Those who are essentially lazy will never find joy — they do not have the strength to be joyful! It is effort which gives joy. Effort makes the being vibrate at a certain degree of tension which makes it possible for you to feel the joy.
It is only effort, in whatever domain it be – material effort, moral effort, intellectual effort – which creates in the being certain vibrations which enable you to get connected with universal vibrations; and it is this which gives joy. It is effort which pulls you out of inertia; it is effort which makes you receptive to the universal forces.” – The Mother
According to Thich Nhat Hanh, even a chore like dish washing can be joyful and therapeutic.
“Washing the dishes is at the same time a means and an end – that is, not only do we do the dishes in order to have clean dishes, we also do the dishes just to do the dishes and live fully each moment while washing them.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
“I have known such people, who were capable of making the necessary effort (not a prudent and calculated effort but a spontaneous one) in no matter what field: material, vital, intellectual, etc., and in this effort there was always joy. For example, a man sits down to write a book, he makes an effort which sets vibrating something in his brain to attract ideas; well, suddenly, this man experiences joy. It is quite certain that, whatever you do, even the most material work, like sweeping a room or cooking, if you make the necessary effort to do this work to the maximum of your ability, you will feel joy, even if what you do is against your nature. When you want to realize something, you make quite spontaneously the necessary effort; this concentrates your energies on the thing to be realized and that gives a meaning to your life. This compels you to a sort of organisation of yourself, a sort of concentration of your energies, because it is this that you wish to do and not fifty other things which contradict it. And it is in this concentration, this intensity of the will, that lies the origin of joy. This gives you the power to receive energies in exchange for those you spend.” – The Mother
So, what appeals to you more? The pursuit of something or the achievement of the end result? What are some ways you can find joy along the way?
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For further reading:
1) “Collected works of Mother“, Sri Aurobindo Ashram
2) “The Miracle of Mindfulness“, Thich Nhat Hanh
What is being in the zone?
Have you ever had moments in your life where doing something gave you a lot of calm joy? Where the sense of space and time seemed to disappear? And you seemed to be your most authentic self?
Welcome to being in the zone!
Is it possible for me to access this state very often?
To answer this, we must understand what makes us be in the zone in the first place.
“We are made up of different parts which have to be unified around the psychic being, if we are conscious of it, or at least around the central aspiration. If this unification is not done, we carry this division within us. To do this, each thought, each feeling, each sensation, each impulse, each reaction, as it manifests, must be presented in the consciousness to the central being or its aspiration. What is in accord is accepted; what is not in accord is refused, rejected or transformed. It is a long endeavor and may take years – but once it is done, the unification is achieved and the path becomes easy and swift.” – The Mother
Within us, there seem to be many forces seemingly at conflict and what we do, say, think, feel, sense etc. often seem disparate as though coming from multiple personalities within us. But behind all that we do in our life, there seems to be a central aspiration coming from deep within, from what can be termed as our core. This core is our natural state of being or our inmost presence.
Whenever we connect to this core, to the aspiration or essence that is trying to emerge, we are filled with life. Different aspects of our life get harmonized and our life becomes much more enjoyable. It seems as though we have got a direction to our life, the purpose of our existence. We are in the zone whenever we are able to do this.
Try to articulate your core, your aspiration. You can write it using words, draw it or express it in any other way that you feel comfortable with.
How to I get back if I fall out of the zone?
Firstly, you have to recognize that you have fallen out of the zone. This can be done, for example, by accessing the feelings when you go off-balance. Some people may immediately notice the lack of joy or the lack of connection. Some people may feel uneasy. Use this as the signal to find out you are moving out of your zone.
Once you spot the signal, learn to get back in. Invoke and connect to the central aspiration directly or to your articulation of the same in forms that you are comfortable with. You could do this as many number of times as possible during the day so that you continue to be in the zone!
How do I find out what is my core?
Stay tuned for that.
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Ramkumar R 