There are two types of time. Clock time and psychological time.
Clock time is timeless. You are in the present moment. You access past or future when needed. Deal with it for practical matters. Once done, you move back deeper into the present moment.
Psychological time is when you identify with the past or keep projecting into the future. You are no longer in the present moment. The past or future consumes you.
Happiness comes when you free yourself from psychological time.
Gratitude to Eckhart Tolle’s teachings from where I learnt this.
“I know many time management frameworks and techniques. But I feel trapped in time”, said one of the CXOs I was coaching.
How does one free oneself from time?
We are often either preoccupied with our past or with the future. The past is gone. The future is yet to come. Yet we live through past memories or anticipated future states.
The key to freeing ourselves is to understand that what we truly have with us is just the present moment, the “now”. Nothing happened in the past. Nothing will happen in the future. Everything happens only in the now.
Started feeling free?
One of my coachees had this urge to know about everything that happened around him. In his life. In his children’s school. In the lives of his relatives and friends. About what each of his team members did every minute at work. He said it gave him a sense of control. The more he did this, the more it upset him when he missed out on any information, even if it was of no consequence to him. His stress levels increased and he blamed people around him for the same. This further strained his relationships.
Are you living or working with someone similar?
How much do you “need to know”? Is it spiking your anxiety levels? Can you let go and start enjoying the flow of life?
A year back I was coaching a CEO who was under a lot of stress. He used to entangle himself in too many situations at home and work. Here is a practice that helped him. It’s called having the “Witness Poise”. I first learnt it from the writings of the Mother of Sri Aurobindo Ashram.
Something is happening. Say there is an issue at work your team has to fix.
1. You may get the urge to jump in. Please don’t do that right away.
2. Withdraw yourself and look at it like an observer, like a witness. You are no longer getting mixed up with the things happening. You have cut your attachment to action. You are seeing things as they are.
3. Now assess the situation from this position and decide what you want to do. Many a times you may not have to do anything at all.
Three simple steps to reduce many issues like micomanagement, conflicts and stress. Isn’t it?
Try it out today. Every day.