A theme that often comes up in the 360 feedback of leaders I coach is that they do not listen. That they are only interested in their own opinion. In saying what they want done. At home as well as at work. They seem to have forgotten a basic skill. How to listen!
Remember what Epictetus said: “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak”
So how to get back to listening? Here are two things that usually help to get started:
1) Slot a few minutes in every discussion to hear the other person or the team.
2) What do you do when the other person speaks? Listen 🙂 Look at them. Not at your laptop. Not at your phone. Not elsewhere. If doing this seems a bit awkward, use SOLER:
S – Squarely face the speaker
O – Open posture, with arms and legs uncrossed
L – Lean towards the speaker.
E – Eye contact
R – Relax