“I love my team at work and my family back home. I do so much for them. But I don’t get back much from them. People are thankless. So I decided I won’t do anything for them henceforth” said a coachee recently.
The love that he described is egoic love.
You help me, I help you.
I help you, you thank me.
You make me happy, I make you happy.
And when that doesn’t happen, I will cut off.
This also manifests in different other forms like something is wrong with the world. Or something is missing in my life. Or (s)he is conspiring against me. There is egoic insufficiency.
True love goes beyond all this. It is much deeper. It happens when the attachment to others goes. You do stuff because you love doing it. You help because you love doing so. Not because you expect anything in return.
It’s magical. Try it out, if you haven’t.
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Ramkumar R 